Here we have just 1 page of Aubrees 12 page physical and cognitive assessment. The coloured blocks are things she has achieved, for a child to be recognised as functioning at a certain age, every block within the age range has to be coloured. Aubree is 4 and functions at an 8 month level, as you can see she’s no where near where neuro typical 4 year olds are.
And that’s okay!
It might look terribly sad, poor little child can’t do anything for herself, but it isn’t! None of the tests, assessments, rating scales or progress reports will ever be able to measure just how awesome a child is or how much joy, happiness and love they give. Oh sure Doctors will readily tell you everything your child has failed to learn, all the skills they are doomed to lose and everything they will never amount to.
What they don’t tell you is how tenacious these kids are. How strong. How exuberant. How wild. They won’t tell you how one small human who can’t speak will tell you they love you in a million different ways, nonverbal just means you have to listen with more than your ears. They’ll never tell you how much this child will humble you, how much love you will have for them.
It’s not all sunshine and flowers, and our dark days are pretty frigging dark. But its definitely not all doom and gloom either, and I figure if she can get through each day, I can to.